It’s always nice to treat your children to a nice dinner, a day out, or perhaps even getting them that computer game they have been begging you to buy for weeks. Seeing their faces light up and how excited they get over these things is heart-warming and makes you feel like a super parent! However, there is a fine line between treating your children and spoiling them, and the latter could result in making them feel entitled – which might make life harder for them when they’re adults and living in the real world. If you want to treat your kids more but are worried about them becoming spoiled, here are a few ways to help you find that balance.
Don’t Give in to Tantrums or Fulfil Every Request
Kids will ask you to buy them many things that they want, especially if the other kids at school are all wearing a certain fashion label, playing a particular game, or have a specific make of phone, etc. While you want to help them fit in at school, often these phases don’t last long, and trying to keep up can be expensive for a parent! However, when you do say no, you might find that your kids (toddlers or teens) might start throwing tantrums to try and get what they want. Never give in to this behavior, as tempting as it might be at times, as this will teach your kids that this is what they have to do to get what they want. Instead, explain to them the reason why you’re not going to purchase that bag, game, phone, etc.
This way, when you treat them to something new that they have asked politely for, they will understand that this is a treat and not something they are entitled to. If you are welcoming a foster child into your home and they seem to be acting out to get treats from you or to push your boundaries, speak to experts like thefca.co.uk for further advice on how to tackle this.
Remember Treats Don’t Have to Be Material Things
Another great way to treat your kids without spoiling them is by remembering that material things aren’t the only way to make them happy. Days out to a theme park, museum, or another place of interest for them is a great way to treat them and have a bonding experience. You can even ask if they want to invite a friend or two to come along. Making them their favorite dinner when they might have had a tough week is another lovely treat to show how much you care or ordering a takeaway that you know they love. You could even hand-make a gift for them as a lovely treat, which is great for those on a tighter budget.
Make Them Aware of Those Less Fortunate
Finally, if you want to continue to treat your kids without spoiling them, make sure that they are aware that there are those less fortunate than them out there. Teaching kids the value of these treats you have bought them and that money isn’t disposable for the majority of people is essential. This is a great way to help them understand what a treat truly means and how it stops becoming a treat if it’s something they get all of the time.
If you want to treat your children but are worried about them becoming spoiled, consider the tips above and see how they can help you to find the right balance.