- The pressure to “do it all” is a leading cause of mental overload and burnout for mothers. And slow living is the antidote.
- Slower mornings with intentional living, simple self-care, and quiet reflections set the tone for a much more relaxed day.
- A sculpted home is an elegant mother’s curated space that reflects her values and the peaceful environment she deserves.
- Slow living isn’t about being perfect all the time; it’s about making deliberate choices that align with who you are beyond motherhood, too.
Motherhood doesn’t always promise the “glow” of creating and birthing life, especially when life is chaotic and riddled with stress. Many moms want the luxury of not only feeling their best but also living their best, especially while raising their child. But it’s particularly hard to do that in an environment that celebrates and promotes fast-paced living, leaving no moment to take a much-needed breather.
That’s why many elegant moms are transitioning to a slower pace of life, where they can wake up to the awe-inspiring morning dawn and not feel behind. If you’re a mom thinking about switching things up and adopting a calmer, unapologetic ‘slow life’ aesthetic but need a final, defining factor, here are some justifications to tip the scales.
The Myth of the Super-Mom
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We all know that common misconception that moms have to do it all. Labels like ‘super-mom’ and ‘wonder-mom’ suggest that, along with a little bundle of joy, mothers come with a set of supernatural abilities. And while that may feel true, mothers are only humans too, and doing everything all at once is one of the leading causes of mental overload for mothers.
The societal pressure to always be on top of everything happening in your child’s life, the constant sacrificing of your physical and emotional needs, the pile of declined get-togethers that threaten social isolation – these make up the ‘toxic productivity’ culture being praised online.
It’s also what fuels the idea that mothers can’t, or rather, they don’t deserve to slow down. These ideas disrupt peaceful living and make being an elegant mom feel like a far-fetched dream instead of the achievable reality it is.
A Slower Morning Changes Everything
It’s not fair to the body to push for a lifestyle that you have to bend over backwards to keep up with. You deserve to slow down, guilt-free, and the best way to do that is by adopting a calmer morning routine. A peaceful morning sparks a peaceful day, and these are some helpful ways to bring intentional living into your mornings.
Start With Silence
Start by using a portion of your AMs to properly wake up, take in the new day, and just sit with yourself – the woman you are when you’re not parenting – before waking the kids up for a day of productivity. Sometimes silence is the friend we need to give us the clarity that a full day of grinding cannot.
Make Yourself a Priority
Take a moment to consider your holistic health by creating a routine that elevates your inner and outer person as a whole. A simple decision to drink a glass of water or do some light stretching goes a long way in bringing out that elegant glow in you. Just taking care of yourself with little things that don’t cause pain is already a powerful statement that a rushed morning cannot fulfil.
Curate a Home That Feels Like You
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All mothers want to create a home where their child will thrive, and while this is great, many forget to make thriving spaces for themselves in their homes. That’s why slow living is the preferred lifestyle for many elegant moms with homes. It allows the perfect opportunity to get rid of unwanted clutter and to personally curate the ideal ecosystem for your home that reflects your values.
Slow living says if you want those colorful walls or prefer to renovate a room for your art, then nothing’s stopping you. It gives you a moment to stop and envision what your space should look and feel like, and what to allow into your environment. Most importantly, it gives you the time to deep dive into what products, vitamins, and supplements actually benefit the wellness of your family and your health.
Being at home should feel like a breath of fresh air, not a place you dread coming back to. It should feel like you in ways that allow your elegance to show and your kid to grow.
Dress Like You Mean It
A mother’s style is her story to tell the world, and part of leading a slow life is to be intentional with the tale you choose to tell. Oftentimes, your story says a lot about your identity, and they determine how people decide to treat you and, as a mother, your child, too. Does your sense of style say ‘mother rushing through the throes of life’ or does it say ‘elegant mother being intentional with her time, her mind, and her power’?
Whatever your answer is, understand that ‘elegant mother’ does not mean owning the most expensive item or brand. It simply means to be deliberate with your choice of wardrobe, choosing quality dressing over quantity shopping, and wearing clothes that impress you above others first and foremost.
How to Make Slow Living Work for You
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The best way to start intentional living is by adapting the ‘slow life’ aesthetic to work for you instead of against you. What gets another mom going might not necessarily match your personality or child. And that’s okay, because at the core of an elegant mother living her best, calm life is the art of self-care.
Remember, the major rule is to:
- Mark time to self-reflect in the early AMs as a goal towards slow mornings
- Make small, pain-free choices to protect your and your family’s well-being.
- And be unapologetic about curating your space to fit you and your child.
With all being said and done, know that a mother’s elegance is unique and comes from within. The outside world tends to get too loud and pressures her into ‘super-mom culture’, causing harm to her personhood and leading to all sorts of mental, emotional, and physical burnout. The best way to silence the noise is by being forgiving towards yourself and intentional with your life.
